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15/08/2011 / Test All Things

Effeminate Men

There is the sad subject of modern, effeminate men. Not only have women revolted against God’s authority, so have men. And assuredly these things are related, for if men are out of their God-ordained places in society, so must the women be.

‘Effeminate’ is a very descriptive word for ‘men’ today, as it means, “having unsuitable feminine qualities, unmanly, marked by weakness and love of ease.” (Webster’s)

This being true, we have many weak, soft, spineless ‘men’ throughout the world. In the first place, men should act and look like men, not the opposite sex. Many do not like it, but the Bible says:

“Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?”
(1 Corinthians 11:14)


Who knows anything about shame today?

“Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush.”
(Jeremiah 8:12)

Long hair on men is not as prevalent now as in the ‘hippie era,’ but it is with us still, and is often coupled with bad attitudes, rebellion against parental authority, and a general ‘do-as-you-please’ lifestyle.

If you do not believe this, just look at practically all of the hard-core rock groups: there is a definite connection between long hair on men, and drugs, immorality and rock music.

The forces of evil have turned loose on society through these sin-crazy people, and all Christians must be up in arms against such diabolical practices. Young boys need teaching on this subject, as many of them are raised in homes not in subjection to the Word of God. Compassion and love should be demonstrated by Christians in dealing with such.

It cannot be proved that the Lord Jesus Christ wore long hair, as many claim and artists have pictured Him. This is certainly not to concern us; we know that Christ was a real Man, yet fully God (Luke 2:52; 1 Timothy 3:16).

To be like Him, which the Scripture enjoins, means morally and spiritually. Let us not argue, ‘Did Christ have long hair?’ neither dispute as to what constitutes being ‘long,’ as some Christians do; that is to act like children.

However, it is important to note that Paul teaches that a woman should wear her hair long. When women in our day ‘crop’ their hair, making it much shorter at times than some men’s, this is another indication of rebellion against the Scripture.

“But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her.”
(1 Corinthians 11:15)

Glory is the opposite of shame. The man does not have a head over him:

“The head of every man is Christ.”
(1 Corinthians 11:3)

It is to Christ the Lord that everyman must yield his obedience and worship, not to other men or to a woman. If men would truly bow to the Lordship of Christ, they would assume their God-given role of being “head of the woman”; but it seems that men today have become so wishy-washy and spineless, that they refuse to carry out this headship.

Let us pray that our God would give us more real men in the present hour – men who truly act as men, those who are firm in their convictions, yet loving in their character.

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave Himself for it.”
(Ephesians 5:25)

Men must fulfil their responsibility to love their wives, thus assuring that their wives will follow them and “reverence” them (Ephesians 5:33). If men are out of their place in the home, not loving and leading, neither can the women and children be in their place.

Fathers must ever realise that it is their solemn duty to bring up their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, never provoking them to wrath (Ephesians 6:4).

It is well and good for fathers to spend time with their children in recreation and family outings, but we fear the typical family in our day spends far too much time in such things as this, to the neglect of family worship, where the Bible is read and prayer is offered.

It may not be readily admitted but television and sport have replaced family altars in the nation. To correct this there must be, firstly, a recognition of the fact, then secondly, a commitment and determination on the part of fathers to reverse this trend. Let all fathers thus say with Joshua of old:

“But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
(Joshua 24:15)

Serving the Lord should be priority in the home and family life.

In concluding these thoughts, let us turn to these helpful insights:

Western society feeds the ego of women. With brazen directness it exerts an influence upon women to fight for their own rights. Educational systems, magazines and advertising spawn self-assertiveness in her.

Why should she not seek her own independent career?

Why should husbands not be as much helpers to women as wives are to men?

The psychological bombardment is having its selfseeking effects in modern women to the ruin of homes.

Peace and joy will be encountered in any home where there is found a submissive wife and a solicitous husband.”

How soon marriage-counselling sessions would end if husbands and wives were competing in thoughtful self-denial. If the woman was anxious to yield to her God-given head in the home, and the man was ambitious to serve her comfort and welfare as being his own flesh, there would be no room for contention and strife.

“Wives submit” and “husbands love” must be repeated until the message reaches beyond the ears, to the hearts of spouses.

By W.F. Bell

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